My stalker ex from 16 years ago, send me a message through LinkedIn, should I worry?
16 years ago my narcissist exboyfriend broke up with me, after only seven months. He was so arrogant that he tried to change me afterwards, because I was nearly perfect and he didn't wanted a next relationship of me ending for the same reasons as he broke it off with me. Of course I told him to get lost, but he was so arrogant, that he thought that I was only mad because he broke up with me. He really started to stalk me. I completely ignored him, and he couldn't accept that there was someone in this world, that didn't wanted to have anything to do with him. I informed all my roommates in the dorm that I was living in back then, to never let him inside again. I didn't needed to inform my friends, because he once called all of them, when he was in my dorm room and I wasn't there, so they all wanted to know why the hell he called them, to ask where I was.
Since then I have read a lot about narcissim and everything fits. He didn't even respect my no during our relationship and was very manipulative and disrespectful.
So I have been ignoring him for 16 years. We live in the same city with half a million inhabitants, so sometimes I run into him and then I always try to sneak away, without him noticing me.
I am in therapy, one of the reasons is that I am always falling for the wrong guys. Last year I switched from one mental health care provider to another. The day that I had my last appointment at the old provider, when I was leaving, he came in. So I thought, finally, he recognises that he has issues and he is handling them!
But now he send me a LinkedIn add-request accompanied by this message:
"Hi MP,
Hope you are doing well.
If you feel like it, we can connect.
Fortunately you are looking very good.
Regards and hug,
his name"
This really creeps me out! Am I overreacting? Of course I will not link with him, and I will not even send him a message telling him to stay away from me, but I am really shocked by this. He is the reason why I am not in the phonebook anymore and he fortunately doesn't know where I live exactly.