Fiancé not in love with me after seizure...
I met my fiancé almost 6 years ago and we moved in together after a year. We then had our daughter a year after that and moved in with my parents to save money. We've been living with them ever since and have now had a son born 6 months ago. We've had a great relationship and very rarely fought and just got on very well.
Two weeks after our son was born this year, my fiancé had a seizure for the first time. It was very frightening for myself and my daughter who witnessed it and had to revive him after he stopped breathing. He went to hospital and was discharged later that night. 4 months later, he told me out of the blue that he wasn't happy anymore and didn't feel like he was 'in love' with me.
It really hurt to hear him say that. I also told him that I had been unhappy because I felt he had distanced himself from us since the seizure. He said that he wanted to move to his mums house for a month or so to just have some time to think about tihngs and find out how he feels.
I asked him to consider counselling after he had been gone for a month and he agreed. After another month we booked in for the counselling session. In that time he said that we were over and he felt that we were just best friends, rather then lovers.
We hadn't been intimate since the birth (not without trying!) because I was in pain from giving birth and healing from stitches.
We went to one counselling session and the counsellor said he could relate to my fiancé because he had had similar feelings to his wife years ago. At the end of the session, he just said that he didn't think he could help us. My fiancé said that he hated feeling like this and wishes he could feel 'in love' with me again. If he could change anything in the world, it would be to get that feeling back. But then he said he was happy alone for now and didn't want to be in the relationship.
I just can't give up on us without even trying. We have had such a loving and great relationship and to just end things so suddenly seems so absurd.
I guess what I'd like to know is, is it normal to fall out of love with your partner at some stage in your relationship? Does our relationship sound like it could be salvagable?
I just don't know whether to ask him for more counselling or how to talk to him about giving us another go. Advice?