I need some advice regarding my Marriage .
Dear Sir
Assalamu Alaikum
I need some advice regarding my Marriage .
Nearly, 8 months ago, my family shown me a girl to marry, and she is my relative. I saw her and liked also, and I thought both of the families are agree so no problem, so that I started talking with her over phone. By talking over phone, both of us got emotional and there is a relationship grown between us day by day.
After 3 month from begging, my family informed me that they are not agree to let me marry with that girl, and that's only for social status. Actually sir, my father is a Engineer, and her father handle his lads in village, so my family is disagree, but that girl was so much emotional and me too. She asked to marry by ourselves and without our guardian's consent. I did not agree, but as I was also emotional and she was crying, so that I was emotionally bound or blackmailed.
We also had intercourse 5-7 times in last 4 month, but recently I have came to know that without girls parents consent the marriage is void or invalid, and that marriage registration is nothing but an agreement.
On the other side, my family is finding girl to marry me and asking me to forget my girlfriend. I told this to my girlfriend and she was crying, also got senseless 2 times. I am now mentally so much crushed and stressed.
I can not understand that what should I do. Should I destroy the agreement/ marriage registration (if the marriage is void) and hear my family. Or should I stay with that girl?
My family will not accept her by any cost. And her family will not accept me as my family insulted them.
Please help me to make decision according to Islamic rule.
Thank you
Noman, Bangladesh.