I want to speak to other mother's that have abusive sons. Is this the right forum?
I raised 3 children alone. They did not suffer for my single situation, I ran a business, worked 7 days a week at least 14 hrs per day for about 16 years. The kids had enough of everything, and I never discussed my difficulties with them. I made sure their needs were always met, a comfortable home, lots to eat, decent clothes, vacation trips in our home area whenever summer holidays came. I spent little to no money on myself during these years, I paid the bills, ran my business, kept up with all the shenanigans that teenagers put you through, and finally they all grew up. Two out of the 3 are doing absolutely fabulous. They live far away from me, but keep in touch almost daily, the youngest child, a son, is now 33 and refuses to grow up. He runs his own business, however he does not work steadily and is always either broke, hungry or owing money he can't pay. He has become extremely abusive toward me these last years. I could go on and on, but in a nutshell, he refuses to take responsibility for his own life. I have been the master of his demise if you could hear it from him. I am seeking a liaison with other mothers that are experiencing the same abuse. I need to move forward and let the chips fall where they may for him. I am turning 65 this December and do not want to continue on this path. I am finding it is now affecting my health and I cannot sleep or concentrate when he comes to my home and smashes something, or does damages that I do not find for several days. Please help me get past this abusive time and move onto some good years in the future. I still live alone and am not looking for anyone to step into this mess.