Considering Marriage somewhat soon.
Ok, I know you guys/gals probably get this all the time, am I/We ready...
I met my girlfriend on vacation a little over a year ago, and we talked several times week over the phone. ( I lived in another state) and I flew to see her once or twice a month at best. Well In May of last year we made it official, we saw each other more and more and talked every day, and in November I got a job close to hear. Kind of. I deploy overseas part of the year usually 3 month rotations over and back. Since I moved here and see her a lot, its been awesome, no fights (ever) were always happy to do anything, etc. I couldn't have made a better girl in my opinion she's supportive of me even with my new risky job. Yea yea I know what your saying, he's blinded by the fog of lust or what ever you want to call it. But it seems like we were meant for each other. My last relationship was 2 years and that was rough, fights all the time, controlling, etc. finally ending when she got mad I wouldn't ask her to marry me after I found out she was cheating with a 17 year old. Go figure! But this relationship is like my dream come true. I can't find any faults and believe me I've tried. I know I can trust her while I'm overseas, and I know I can trust myself, Ive been cheated on a few times and it blows. I have no desire to hookup with any girls( besides her ) what so ever, I love this one I don't want to lose her for some stupid lust. Anyway, I deploy in a few weeks to very bad area which has quite a bit of risk. I was originally going to wait her out and see with how she does not seeing me for 3 months at a time for a few times then ask if it was all good, but I have several issues with this... A; it doesn't seem fair to make her wait while I do my thing with no sense of security or payback; B I'm also 23 and I guess the going rate for divorces is 5 years I don't want to lose half my stuff if its early lol All the guys at work make fun of marrige as probably 75% are single and divorced but the 25% make it work which I think we can C; I got to think as a team, if something happens over there I want her to be covered you know? Also she should reap the benefits of me being gone by having a good financial situation "we" built D; Would her parents be OK with it? We get along really well, they are like my second home. I feel ready, I feel she is too, we always joke about getting married, and I act like I'm going to take us to the court house to sign papers and she's like OK lets go then. Or stay the night with me, she's like OK but you better go get my stuff from my parents house tommorow( Her parents are religious and believe in the old ways, marriage before spending the night or in the same bed, aka sex) We look at housing together and plan as a "we" and speak a lot about us, when were marrid one day some day kind of stuff. I have been thinking about doing it once I get back from my first deployment, granted things go well as they have been so far. Does it seem to early to commit to this a year and a half of being a couple?We have proven the long distance thing works being that's how it started and was for a few months I have no problems being with her forever and she proclaims the same, hehe. ( I guess marrige is a two person game? ;) ) Sorry for the novel as I can't seem to get my point across. Thanks for reading!