Being Threatened by Grandma
I live in Washington. I have a 2 1/2 year old. Her father lives in Oregon. He dumped me when I was 4 months pregnant, saw her at the hospital and once a week later. I moved out of the area to be with my parents for help since he was not around. He hasn't seen her since she was 1 month old. He does a lot of drugs and drinking and I don't want my child around that. I have changed my life to make being a mother my priority. His mother comes around every 3-4 months for about an hour at a time, but he has not called, emailed or anything. She is now telling me that if I don't let her see my child that she will take me to court for him. He was not put on the birth certificate and does not pay any child support. She made a lot of threats toward me and told me I was breaking the law because I didn't put him on the birth certificate(which I know is untrue) and I know that she doesn't really have any rights to visitation but if we go to court that he would get them. I'm just wondering what kind of rights would he have for visitation? Would he be able to get joint custody? Would the make me give her up for weekends and stuff? Would I have to drive to meet him or would he be required to come here to see her? (he's about 5 hours away) I can't imagine leaving my baby with them. I am trying to smooth things over with her because I don't want to go to court, but this is not the first time she has used this against me. I need some advise.