In love with a married man in an open relationship
I started dating a married man a few months ago, he piquéd my interest because of the open relationship he has with his wife(I'm pretty open minded) and now we've fallen in love with each other. I've been seeing him for a while and his wife is fine with it. My problem is that I don't like the thought of him being with her physically, even day to day. He says he is with her because of a feeling of commitment more than desire, I'm a pretty good looking lady and he says he loves and desire me but he doesn't think he could leave her.
So now my predicament is do I try to find a way to deal with my feeling about him being together with both of us or am I going to drive myself crazy thinking about them together while I wait to see him again. One point is I really do like this guy, and haven't felt a connection like this before. I've been married, I'm kind of scared of commitment and have teenage kids. His kids are grown or teenagers. Any advice would be a welcome outside perspective. Thanks!