How do I fix being an awful person?
Don't get me wrong, I'm not a serial killer or anything. But I feel like I'm just a morally filthy person of no integrity or honesty. I'm a passionate, fun-loving, kind person. I love others and dogs and the environment and I work hard.
I shoplift quite often. Every few weeks or so. I usually take things I need and can't afford. But I'll take things I DON'T need and can't afford too. It's actually ridiculous. The other day I stole some candles and I'm driving home thinking " is your problem? You just stole candles?? How disgusting and self-centered and materialistic."
I'm not sure how to stop other than to just force myself to stop cold turkey. It's just that I've gotten in the habit of doing it, and it's rather easy. Free stuff. And yet I feel awful about it, and I feel like it's separating me from a pure, happy life.
(besides shoplifting I have a terrible financial sense and am no good at managing money)
I also lie. To my parents, to my boyfriend, to my friends. Usually it's about things that I don't want them to know about, things I think would be awkward for them to know about. Nothing really ever huge. Me and my boyfriend just went through a break and are back together, and I've lied to him about some of the things that happened in the break.
I want to stop lying. I want to be a person of integrity and truth. I feel like lying is so dirty and wrong. Like garbage coming out of your mouth.
Another thing: I love my boyfriend dearly. Me and him have been in a long distance relationship. We took a slight break, and during the break I messed around with 2 other guys. Our break was only for like 5 days. How can someone mess around with 2 other people in 5 days when on break with the person they love very very much?
I've always wanted to experience sex with others because my boyfriend was my first and only, so I saw the opportunity for that and took it.
But I feel so guilty because of it, even though it was enjoyable and a great learning experience, and makes me appreciate my boyfriend more. I haven't told him about the other guys because I don't think its necessary and I think he would be disgusted by me. And even though we are back together and planning on living together within a month to pursue our relationship and make things work, I have some small part of me that still wants to be single and mess around and be pursued and wanted by guys. I know for a FACT that this will only lead to emptiness and sadness compared to the beautiful love me and my boyfriend share. So why do I even still crave it?
What is my problem? Why do I have these awful issues in my life of being this self-centered, lying cheating stealing person? I want to have integrity and be someone who stands for honesty and good things.
Am I too self-centered? Do I need to seek God more? I am a Christian and I feel so distant from Him. I feel like these are all barriers to being close to Him.
Any advice will be greatly appreciated.