How do you fall OUT of love?
What can you do to fall OUT of love with someone? I am so in love with someone who just "doesn't want a serious relationship right now." he says he likes me and thinks we could be in a relationship in the future, but he and his ex girlfriend broke up about a month ago (she had been in Europe all summer, and told him she wanted to "go on a break" while she was there, so we started seeing each other in June, which ended with them officially breaking up in August) and he says we wants to wait until he is 100% over her before he starts seriously seeing someone else. So he calls me every day, and we'll talk for hours, and we'll see each other several times a week, which often involves us being intimate... but then when I'm not with him all I can think about is how much I love him and want to be with him... when he told me he just "wants to be friends for right now" (even though he doesn't act like it) it totally killed me. I have been so depressed over all of this and just want to stop loving him so I stop feeling like this. I thought maybe if I stopped talking to him and stopped seeing him all together that might work, but I don't want him out of my life because he is such an amazing person. We have so much in common and have so much fun together. We also have a trip planned to see an old friend on the coast next month. But if he doesn't love me back I don't want to have my heart broken every single day. But then part of me wants to wait it out until he is over her, but who knows how long that could be. What should I do?
How do you get over someone?
Yes, I know getting over someone takes time. In the past I have always gotten over someone with a rebound relationship. But I am completely in love with someone who is still in love with his ex girlfriend. I asked him to be honest with me and he was... but it was a truth that I just didn't want to hear. I don't want to love him anymore because it just hurts too much. But he was one of my best friends (and my lover... ). I told him I was not going to call him or see him or text him or even myspace him anymore... he said that's not what he wants and he knows its not what I want even though he knows that we both know its for the best. So how do I get over him? How to I make myself not love him anymore? Or even like him? I miss his friendship, his companionship, and everything about him... but I know I need to get over him and I just can't stop thinking about how much I still love him and I wish he were in love with me, not her... and she doesn't even want to have anything to do with him! Both of us are so stupid! I want to be the less stupid one... so what do I do?