So Ive been with my girlfriend for almost two years we've lived together for a bit now it's very serious we've been talking about getting married and everything now recently she rarely shows me affection any more and it started to worry me at some point I found out she has been watching porn I wasn't sneekisn she let's me use her phone sometimes and it was still up so I asked her about it and she told me she was masterbating to it now that didn't bother me what bothers me is the she hasn't even let me touch her in almost a month and is always saying she isn't in the mood and has stopped showing me affection but has been watching porn and masterbating

Stop trying to get in her pants and get into her MIND. Maybe she is having a bad month? Are there any new and different stresses in areas of her life? MEDS, or even new birth control pills? Disagreements, family, work issues? Whatever the deal is the challenge is for you to patiently and lovingly find out. Let me ask if she was watching porn and masturbating before you got with her?

Is this something you have talked about? Trust me sex and personal things are not an easy subject especially when one partner is frustrated, threatened, or just perplexed. These reactions are normal yet distractions for GOOD LISTENING. Deal with your feelings first, and I say that because her behavior sort of bothers YOU (Of course because you ain't getting what you want when you want it.).

It probably isn't even about sex at all. Or YOU. LOL, maybe she told you 6 months ago and you weren't listening... is that at all possible. Believe it or not two years is just the beginning of two strangers learning stuff about each other and I don't mind telling you that they know more after decades, but still can learn even more.

Make sense?