In a realationship but in love with another girl
I am 28 and have been in a serious relationship with my girlfriend for 8 years now. Until recently I have been utterly faithful to her. Back in November, I discovered that she had feelings for another, much younger guy. At first I was infuriated, but after it all came out and I discovered that nothing (sexually) had happened between them, I decided to talk to my girlfriend and try to make it work. I'm happy to say that things seemed to really turn around after that until just recently. I have always had some minor complaints about my girlfriend - our opinions were not always in sync, something's like our tastes in music and our senses of humor seemed really out of wack. I've always just thought I was nitpicking and I told myself I should just "settle". Well, for the last couple months I've been talking to a girl I work with and the only way I can describe her is if someone took my girlfriend and fixed any problem I ever had with her. I'm not kidding, I don't really believe in God, but she is so perfectly made just for me that I am starting to doubt myself. On everything we discuss we immediatele click, I have never connected with anyone else so strongly before in my life. Sometimes she'll say what I'm thinking before I can say it and vice-versa. So I know what you're thinking "Easy. Just dump your girlfriend and go for it with this new girl", right? Well here's the twist: this girl is married. Now, she has only been married for 2 years and they don't have any kids. We haven't done anything at all romantically yet and I haven't told her how I feel, but I'm also not very good at hiding my emotions and I'm pretty sure she knows that I love her and by the way she acts around me and the way she speaks to me I'm pretty sure she loves me too. We talk every day, phone calls, text messages, emails, Facebook, etc. We have been out to lunch alone together at work and she is constantly inviting me to hang out with her outside of work. We like all the same music, movies, TV shows, etc. and we are aligned on every political or philosophical topic we discuss. I can't deny - I am totally falling for this girl. To further complicate things, I've met her husband, and he's a nice guy - and my girlfriend is a nice, good person as well. So, I guess my question is, What do I do? Do I just stay the course and not be as happy as I know I could be? Do I tell the married girl how I really feel? I just feel like the situation is not fair, am I being completely selfish?