Suicidal Bipolar Boyfriend
I would really appreciate anyone's advice, especially if they have been through something similar.
I have been dating my boyfriend off and on, mostly on for the past three years. He's grown increasingly more violent towards me. He never beats me up or anything but I'm definitely frightened by him when he's upset. He's also grown increasingly more needy and we recently moved in together. He wants us to spend all our time together, and often alone together. He makes me feel separated from the rest of my friends and even family sometimes. He was depressed and then suicidal and now has been diagnosed as bipolar. He tells me he wants me to be the one to take care of him and makes me feel trapped. I feel like if something happens to him its my fault and will be on my head. I'm so sad and so scared, I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should be taking care of him or running for my life, or just getting some space. I know that's a lot to digest but if anyone could help me please do. I need help.
I know what you are feeling
My boyfriend is almost the same way, but he won't admit to it. He blames it all on his parents, and yeah that's part of it, but he needs to smell the coffee and do something about it. Mine won't even take meds, because he feels better with out them.. Nice excuse. Good Luck. :)
Thank you for the article on recognizing a Looser!
To all concerened, I just wanted to respond and let let anyone who is in a relationship like the above mentioned know, I UNDERSTAND. You just don't know what to do, you know something is really wrong and you just want to stop the madness! At this point in my life, I think I have some type of codependency and attract controlling, needy men and Bi-polar people. I was previously married to a man who I found out had Narcisstic Personality Disorder. After him I met another guy who I thought was wonderful, but resently, as of this weekend finally saw his true colors when he became insanely jealous over a complete stranger that I was talking to while we were fishing. It was not normal. As of today, he is still talking about how I disrespected him by talking to this man, (of which I do not know his name or even care) for one hour. I was really amazed at his reaction to this even after I told him I was talking to him about what it is like living in Alabama since that is where he is from. My boyfriend recently after we visited, desparately wants to move there so I wanted to know what the job market was like. He just didn't care about that, just that I was talking to another man. My boyfriend has had repeaded outbursts of rage through out our relationship of 6 months, walking out, making scenes in public, and my favorite he just shuts down and does not talk at all no matter how many questions I ask or attempts to have a conversation with him. I let him know on this past Monday that I had enough of his abuse. Because I recognized that's what it was from my past marriage. Then I saw an article on the internet about BPD-Boarderline Personality Disorder. When I read this article I knew that was what he had. Today I tried to research further and read the article on recognizing a Looser. That really confirmed it for me. I now know what I have to do. As much as I love him (why is my concern) I must get out of this relationship for the safety of my 9 year old child and myself. He has all the characteristics of a Looser. I am very concerned and ashamed to say I didn't recognize them or I denied that he was one because I was so attracked to this man. Even when he would tell me stories of the fights he was in and I saw him physically fighting with his 17 year old son, I still didn't get it. I could be next. He has no job now, no apartment, no car or drivers licence. He however, is very gifted in various areas that captivated me - Cullenary (cooks really well), painting fix all, comedian (very funny), chimney cleaning, electrical work and was in the military traveled to Germany and lived in Hawaii. Which I always see the potential, not the true facts. Strangely he is concerned about me talking to a stranger when he is always talking and flirting with women he doesn't know or knows, he has a lot of chrisma. I was also lulled into the false security that he is a loving caring person because he takes care of his aling mother and 17 year old son. Which I could identify with. I also know for a fact that he has been talking to old flames on his cell, which he keeps on silent and in the past has dated through the interenet. In two of his past relationships one of his girlfriends had a nervous breakdown and the last one, a deaf mute, he physically abused according to his son. She also came from a previous abusive relationship. After careful thought, I have surmmized this man to be a Womenizing Looser who despartely needs psychiatric help. I just want to thank FJ Newbie who sent the e-mail above with the link http://www.mental-health-matters.com. Thank you so much, you have changed my destiny. I hope that someone can benefit from my story. If you have any comments or words of encouragement as I try to get out of this relationship, they are greatly apreciated at this time. God bless you all.
Glenie d