Desperate family -need to know legal rights
When I was 16 I got pregnant. I slept with a friend (Josh) then two weeks later with the man who would be my future husband (Chris). I didn't think there was any way the baby could be Chris's so I told him about Josh and that the baby wasn't his. He took it well and decided to stay with me to see if we could work it out. I told Josh about the pregnancy and he begged for me to have an abortion. He was heavy into drugs and didn't want anything to do with me or her. He wouldn't accept that I was having her, so I cut off contact with him (to his joy) so Chris and I decided we would marry after she was born and he would raise her as his own (there was a small possibility she was his anyway). The night I gave birth my mother contacted Josh and his mother and they agreed that they wanted absolutely nothing to do with us and that Chris could sign the birth certificate and they would never contact us again. Everything was fine until she was 1 at which time Josh happened to see her out with me. He called me claiming he's the father and that he'd leave me alone if I let him see her and have a picture. So I did, I would have done anything he asked to keep him away. After the first time I let him see her he kept threatening that if I didn't let him see her "one more time" he would try to get custody. I let him see her 5 more times. The last time he saw her he was so drugged up (he's been a heavy drug user since before she was conceived -meth, weed, pills, alcohol, ect) he fell over with her in his arms and skinned her knee. I changed my phone number and moved after that so he couldn't contact me again, I was terrified. That was 2yrs ago, and he's found me again. He's married now with another child, and he had his wife call me in the middle of the night for days until I finally agreed to talk to them. They've said they're taking me to court within the next 6 months, are going to force us to take a DNA test, and when it says she's his he's going to try to get visitation/custody. This is tearing my family apart. My husband is the most AMAZING man and father in the world and we cannot bare to let a drug using alcoholic take our daughter away. He claims he's recorded our conversations of me saying that she's his, he's got a couple pictures of her, and has seen her, so he says it's enough proof to take me to court. My husband is on the birth certificate, we're married, and he signed a voluntary acknowledgement of paternity order at the hospital. Can he really force this on us? He didn't want anything to do with us for so long, and when he did contact me it was only to threaten me. I've been nothing but nice trying to stay on his good side so he doesn't do something stupid to hurt me or her. Please please please someone help me with this, I've developed an anxiety disorder and worry everyday he's going to come in a tear our happy family apart.