Finding the middle ground: step-parenting.
I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years now.
I have a twelve yo son and a seven yo daughter from a previous relationship.
My question is to parents in relationships with step-parents and step-parents.
My boyfriend is very firm with my son, he would never lay a hand on him but for example my son has just been grounded for the last 9 weeks for a very poor progress report that turned into a poor report card. I know that I am more lenient with my son then he is.
Last night only three days off his grounding, he brought home a bad behavior report from the school for playing with a toy at his desk. My question is how do find the common ground because I was upset at my boyfriend for being ready to ground him again back to his room.
I know part of it is he doesn't have any children and has a less compassionate perception and that we have made great progress with my son's behavior but as a mom I get angry and very defensive about my son.
Advice?