Originally Posted by smokedetector
Yes, they were probably both scared, and like I said, it was their choice to get an abortion, and that's not the real issue right now. I just don't understand how you can go from not wanting the kid (be it through abortion, adoption, just not seeing it or whatever, which are all valid choices a person can make) to wanting the other parent (who obviously wasn't as comfortable about the choice, which is why I suspect she didn't go through with it) to not have the kid and to keep the kid for yourself. I don't get that at all, and if someone, namely the OP, could explain, I would be more than willing to listen and take what he says with an open mind. What I'm getting right now is
1) I don't want the baby, lets get an abortion
2) OK she changed the plan, but is still getting the abortion
3) She walked out, don't know if she got rid of it
4) She says she's still pregnant
5) Says she had a miscarriage
6) Says she didn't have a miscarriage
7) She keeps lying to me and I guess this baby is going to be born anyway. Why not get back at her for lying and try to take the baby away from her?
8) I want full custody
It just seems like he's only wanting full custody for his own selfish reasons, namely revenge, and doesn't really care whats best for the baby. That is why I have yet to be convinced that he is "trying to be a good father now." It looks to me more like he's trying to hurt the mother (who I won't say is innocent in all this either) by getting the baby.