My child's mother died and her parents took my daughter
My ex-girlfriend died 2 weeks ago. She was killed in a car accident and my daughter was in the accident also. Nobody even contacted me, and her maternal grandmother took her home from the hospital. She has had her ever since, and every time I try to work out something to be able to see her, she gives an excuse, and now they have sent me papers trying to have me sign away my parental rights.
I live in MO. We were never married. My daughter lived with her mother and I had her 2-3 days every week. I'm on parole, and currently unemployed, and I know they will try to use this against me. I want to go get my daughter from their house, and the reason I haven't so far is I didn't want to traumatize her any more than she already has been over her mothers death. But surely if I show up, there will be a confrontation, possibly police, and I don't want to do that to my daughter. I don't have money to hire a lawyer, so I need to know what I can do.
I was told since we were never married that I don't really have custody of her, but neither do they, so can I legally go take my daughter from them? I live with my parents, and she will have a roof over her head and be taken care of, it's not as if I am unfit.
I have papers to fill out to file for custody on my own, but I'm not exactly sure who to put as the respondent, since I am not filing against anyone. Can you please help me? I am desperate to get my daughter back.