Originally Posted by elle13ad4u
My husband and I have been married for two years, we just had a baby, but for the past two years of being together, I haven't been really happy with him. He's in the military and he's always busy with so many things, but he never makes time for me. Our communication is bad, everytime we talk, we end up getting mad over it. He has a rountine that is bothering me, he comes home from work, eat and plays game all day until I come home from work. Everytime I ask him to get off the computer, he gets mad. He tells me all the time that I make up excuses for all the things I got to do. For example when I was sick with a fever, and asked him to watch our son, he said it was an excuse for being lazy. I'm so fed up with him, and sometimes I just want to leave him, but a part of me loves him and stays because I think there's hope that he'll change and be a better husband to me. He's totally good with our son, but when it comes to me, he tells me I'm annoying. We hardly talk, he doesn't have any hobbies besides playing games on the computer. He chooses that game over me so many times, he's lied to me and hid things from me. I just don't know what to do anymore, I feel like I'm trap or something, everytime I try to talk to him about what's going on, he gets mad and curses me out. He's abuse me verbally and emotionally. He trys to make me feel like the bad one, and he tells me I abuse him physically. Now all those time I threw a fist or slapped him was for a good reason. He would always do things that really irratates me and everytime I say stop it, he would just keep on doing it. Like when we were driving, and I was mad at him for saying dumb things to me, so I kept silence, and he kept bugging me, trying to stick his fingers in my ears while I was driving, so I blocked it with my arm and it hit him, he got so mad and said, "you watch hunnie, someday when i can't take it no more, your gonna get it, I'm gonna hit you back one of these days." I took that ad a threat and explained to him that i was blocking it, and he leaned forward so i guess i hit him acidentally. he still was mad. He would pull off moves from UFC and try it out of me, like sometimes he would head lock me to the point of me choking and crying. It's not fun when it happens, and after that I get so mad, because when I tell him to stop, he just keeps doing what he's doing. He's like a stubborn kid, nothing gets in his head, and I think there's really nothing in his head. When I was pregnant, he treated me really bad. I was four months and we were shopping at wal-mart, my body was changing to adjust for the baby, and just because i was walking so slow, he said to me, "hurry the up, why the do you walk like you just got in the !" It hurts me so much to think about it, but what should i do now? Should i stay or go?