Birth father denied notice of birth and adoption.
At some point is a birth father afforded a right to privacy when the birth mother denied him the knowledge that she was expecting, left town, delivered the child and put the child up for adoption. 20 plus years later a call come hello dad - complete me. I don't deny the fling - but I have a hard time considering myself the father. I have lead a respectible life - this has crushed my wife and I am troubled that I was thought so little of long ago and now I am "important" to a stranger.
My world has been taken from me because of an irresponsible act years ago that I was not even allowed to make right. Now I have to destroy the lives of others.
I think I should have had some rights years ago and should have been afforded the opportunity to participate in the decisions and had basic knowledge to share with my life partner so she would know what she was marrying into and we could have made informed life decisions. I also think that once the birth mother acted on her own - that is the way things should stay.
Troubled and breaking the hearts of those I love