Hey Big Brains of The Internet,
Thanks for the advice,
I met a girl a month ago, online, great first dates. The quick and dirty is: She tells me she was sexually abused as a child, age 12, (now 18) by her step brother in his 30ties. She now lives with her mom in my town. Then proceeded to tell me she had "cut" herself once, and after she decided to seek therapy. After six month of therapy she visited her fathers place (subsequently also the home of the step brother) and her therapist got very mad at her and they parted ways. Everything seemed pretty normal, until last night when she took her jeans off and showed two bandages on her upper thigh. She then proceeded to tell me she cut herself again. It sounds like she doesn't cut herself in a suicidal way, but (stupid question) it leads to it? Or is this a way to feel something?
Therefore tonight, I decided to call it off between us (4 weeks), and explained to her that she needed to find some help. She proceeded to ask "Your leaving because I cut myself??"
I liked this girl. But it seems like she needs some time for herself, if its even more therapy, or something. Was I told cold in my delivery? Thanks again for the incite.