She has commitment issues??
So I have been dating my girlfriend for 8 months. I am 35 and she is 33. Everything has been going well until I invited her and her parents to my mothers retirement party in June. She said she wasn't comfortable with it and that it meant we are more serious than she thought we were. She noticed I was annoyed at her response and then said she needed time to think. A few hours later, she called to tell me that she is unsure of her feelings, doesn't know if she can give me what I deserve, and needed to take time to herself to sort out her feelings. My response was that if she needs time and space, I will not be around and she must do it on her own. I will not hang around and be strung along. So, I went no contact and disappeared.
Just to put this into perspective, throughout our relationship she has told me that she loves me, is committed to me, loves me on a spiritual level, wants to spend more time with me, and was bothered as to why I haven't been posting many photos of us recently on my instagram. In fact, those were things she told me just two weeks prior her telling me she needed space to sort out her feelings. I have been around her family countless times... even sitting in a Christmas photo with her and her family on her mothers wall.
2 weeks after she called a break, I decided that this was not what I wanted and began the process of moving on. I removed her from all social media, as well as her friends and sister. This included photos and follows. Just two hours after I did this, I receive the first message from her in 2 weeks. She wanted to know if I was available to speak and that she missed me. I told her that I was not available and that maybe I would be during the week. She reached out again a few days later and we had a conversation.
In person, she told me that she missed me, wants to be in a relationship with me, respects me, admired me, but not sure if she loves me romantically. She wants to take things slow and see if something develops for her. To be honest, I feel that she is still trying to sort her feelings out, but being selfish and wants me there until she figures it out. I told he that I needed time to figure our what I want. Her response was asking me if I was going to prance around being single. I told her that hearing what she just told me really hurt and not sure if this was for me. She mentioned that she's never felt more comfortable with anyone and that no one has ever treated her so good.
How does she go from telling me she loves to throughout the relationship, to taking a break, but wanting to get back and not sure if she loves me?? What should I do? I am still a young man, but at the point in my life where I am settled in my career as a teacher, professor and PhD student. I am also looking for someone to eventually build something with. Does this girl sound like someone I can eventually build something with?
Did I make the right decision??
So my girlfriend and I have been together nearly a year. I am 35 and she is 33. A couple months ago, she decided that she wasn't sure what she wanted and called a break. I agreed and let her be. She decided to come back two weeks later. However, she told me that she didn't love me and wanted to see if this connection was real. This last week, I decided to end the relationship. I had a feeling that something wasn't right, as well as never felt right myself since she came back to the relationship.
I asked if she was happy and she responded that she wasn't unhappy. I then asked if she loved me. She responded that she did, but not romantically and wanted to stay in the relationship to see if those feelings developed. The following day, I drove over to her place with all her stuff that she had at my place and ended the relationship.
I am looking for more of a serious commitment and feel that if those feelings aren't developing after being together for nearly a year, they will most likely not develop. Therefore, I told her that we both deserved better and it was unfair for me to stay in a relationship like this. I felt as if I was being strung along until she decided how she felt, which was unacceptable to me.
Did I make the right decision to walk away knowing how she felt and knowing that I want something more?