Does my boyfriend view my 5yr old daughter sexually?
I met this man at work and he was married. We always had an unspoken vibe; he had told me he would love to take me and my daughter out to get to see the city sometime (after months of knowing each other). I thought it somewhat strange since he was married, but didn't think too much of it. We did nothing romantic until a kiss one night before he transferred jobs. I had recently broken my TV and the next day, he bought us a new fancy thing saying it was because my daughter needed to have her TV. I thanked him, but felt weird about it and told him I didn't feel right about him being married,etc. and that it couldn't happen again. Needless to say, trust wasn't established from the beginning.
He ended up divorcing his wife of five years (no kids) within the month, told me first, and eventually told me it was all to be with me. The Wii came shortly after, during their divorce, for my daughter again. He lavished me with gifts as well; he liked the feeling of taking care of us. So did I, but felt a bit strange about it all happening so abruptly with no promise of the future for him.
Anyway, now we have been dating on and off for a year or so. He does take care of us, and I can be difficult at times and he is so patient (almost unemotionally patient, if that makes any sense) with me. He has been urgent to move in together a couple times, but now understands that I need time before I commit to something that big, especially because of my baby girl. I work A lot, and my relationship with my girl suffers... I do what I have to do. But this is significant because I ask her how she feels around him, and she seems like she won't open up to me. Breaks my heart. Anyway, he offers to watch her, drop her off at school, loves helping with homework... Good things! Right?? Sometimes, he clams up and watches her in a way I feel weird like I'm intruding being in the same room... as my kiddo?? ***? This feeling won't go away. It's killing me; I love him a lot but not enough to risk my daughter's safety. I also don't want to risk my first relationship since being a single momma by being overanalytical. I just feel downright creeped out at times and I don't know what is wrong with me. Or is it him?
Can anyone relate or have any input? Ask q's if you need to understand the situation better... Thanks in advance!!