Hello Everyone
My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now but I'm scared or I think that I'm in a abusive relationship. The first 5 months were amazing. We went on dates, spent nearly every day together and it was just, there were no wrods to describe how happy I was. To be with the man of my dreams.
8 months on however, things have dramtically changed. When things first started changing I use to just ignore it. I use to think to myself that no I've just misunderstood where his coming from, were just having a stupid fight. He still loves me.
But I can't do it anymore. I don't know what to do, what to say, what to think. I don't feel like like myself anymore and my parents and best friend have said they don't know me anymore either. They say that I've changed. Im not the same person I use to be.
At the moment or when he gets angry, he says things like I'm stupid, boring, slow, dumb. He says I'll never be anything in life and I won't be able to get a job with a legal firm. His long stop taken me out on dates and when we do go out I pay for it. I also paid for his bed. I didn't want to to but I didn't want him to sleep on the floor either so I gave it to him. Thing is though, I'm now in debt of $2000.
In regards to my friends. I don't have any anymore. I've stopped hanging out with them. I also have lost contact with my family over him. They didn't like him from day one because he has two assult charges against his name. Things went sour between him and my family. They tried toc all cops on him etc etc and even mum and dad, as well as matt, wasked for me to choose. Choose them or him. At the time, I chose him. Also lost my job over him because I started calling in sick everyday to work because he wanted to spend time with me.
Im now living with him. For awhile things settled down. He would say stuff like I hope one day we get married etc etc and that I love you but today I just found out that his smoked weed twice, he got his friend to steal $50 000 from someone else (dont know who) and that his been cheating on me with another girl.
Im so confused and shocked I don't know what to do. Ive lost everything. I feel so embarrassed by what his done. I do feel stupid for belieiving him. My parents were right but I love him. I love him with all my heart. I've tried to leave 5 other times but I cant. Help, what do I do?