My wife and I have been married almost 20 years and have 3 children. Our marriage was happy until this past year, when my wife had an affair and then realized that sex with other men excited her. She has an older man, actually quite a nice guy who is also married. They get together every couple of months for sex. Our sex life is good and she says it is fulfilling to her, but she likes the variety. Safe sex is always practiced and while I have not been happy about it because it makes me feel a bit inadequate, I have allowed her to maintain what she is doing.
I have never bene with anyone else but my wife. Yep... I was one of those wait till marriage guys! My wife has offered for me to find a partner of my own as a "special friend"... but I have never taken her up on it. In my eyes, I have been faithful to our marriage and have not wanted anyone but her.
In the past few days, I have been chatting with a neighbor down the street. (all of us are in our 40's by the way) She is in a horrible marriage with a guy who does not appreciate her at all. She has not been sexually active in a number of years as the husband shows her no interest and he goes on vacation to resorts like "Hedonism" all by himself. The woman and I have been chatting about the fact that we both have desired each other for a long time, but neither one of us have ever said anything.
My question is... what should I do? What would you do? Remain on the sidelines while my wife plays... or become active with this woman who obviously desires me and has needs that I could help her meet?
TW