College guy suddenly confusing college girl
So here's the deal:
I entered college midyear. During my first week, I met this incredibly nice & cute guy. We hit it off. We spent hours just talking in his room. He drove me to the bookstore to get my books. We went out for fast food a couple times.
Things got complicated when he decided to make a move late one Friday night when we were walking around campus. He told me he /really/ liked me and asked if he could kiss me. I freaked out (don't ask me why) and said 'no'. So we sat down on a bench where we cuddled and talked for hours. He walked me back to my dorm room and we hugged goodbye. The next day, we both stayed behind while our mutual friends went out. We ended up kissing in his dorm room. But that's all.
All of a sudden he started acting weird. Evidently, he realized with the kiss that he was still in love with his ex (great timing eh?). She's still in hs and has a new boyfriend whom she is love with. She broke up with him three months ago because she wanted to explore more and felt too much like they were 'married'. He still thinks the plan is to get back together and married eventually once they've explored. He told me some of this the next morning (other of it I gathered from him during other convos) and said we should just be friends.
Being good friends lasted for about a week. That weekend he got sick with the flu and went home. We talked briefly on I'm several times (always me iming first). He came back, but I didn't really see him at all for the next week. I stopped by once, but conversation was stilted and he rushed off to the gym.
So this weekend, I ran in to him one afternoon and chatted with him briefly. I ended up asking him about the distance. He denied acting any differently. I told him that it seemed like he didn't want to hang out anymore. He said he was just 'living life' (what kind of answer is that? ).
The next night, after a party, a bunch of my girls were hanging out in his room so I was there. He was a little drunk and flirting with a prospective student. He was also giving all the girls hugs when they walked in, but not me. He barely made eye contact and never spoke to me directly. There was a new guy there (a friend of one of the girls that nobody else really knew) so I made conversation with him. My game was thrown off though by the other guy's actions. At dinner last night, he was very awkward when we were the only ones at the table. He was much more interactive with two other girls that he barely knows.
One of our mutual friends has told me about how he'll be distant for about a week and then start acting normal again. But it seems like he's just shutting me out, not everyone. With all our mutual friends, it's hard to not be around him. And every time I'm around him, I seethe at the fact that he's so jumpy, distant, and uninterested.
Of course, I still have a thing for him. And I can handle just being friends. But why is he shutting me out? How should I deal? :confused: help!
(and yes I do know that I wrote a lot, but it's therapeutic to just get it all out on 'paper'. :cool: )