OK, I have been getting to know a lad at work for around about a year, we really started to kick off but I think he felt more towards me than I did for him, after 3/4 months we were texting everyday and talking at every possible chance at work, still I did not feel the same way... it was about dec/jan that I started to like him back, but as I had already turned him down twice I think he probably feared rejection again.

as march approached this year we were closer than ever and both thought it would kick off, until I spoke to my mum and because of the way he can be she persuaded me to stay clear, although I thought at the back of my mind that wasn't what I wanted.

I told him and he understood, the texting stopped for a week, but then we somehow as always managed to start it all again.

he knew nothing could happen unless he changed and he really has been trying, but last weekend I heard something in the staffroom about a random drunken night he had out in town and I didn't like what I heard, so gave him silent treatment. Obviously this was completely unacceptable as it turned out the accident that happened in town was not recently it was way back in september/october time.

after this little fall out, things have changed, he told a friend in work that we would have to stop texting as much and that things were going to change, and that it was hard and would take time. I was expecting little conversation in work but funnily enough he has been back to usual in work... flirty, close, hugs, attracting attention etc. but the texts have become less regularly, one thing he did say was that I never text him and he didn't like that, but I don't know whether to text him as I really don't want to piss him off or annoy him.

basially I am in a mess, as I absolutely adore him, I think about him non stop and when he doesn't text a day feels like a year and I miss him, but I fear he is getting over it (but then I wonder why he is still so flirty in work?) I understand he may be bored and want to move on, but he was sending messages only a week or two ago saying how much he adored me and would always be there for me and would look after me and that I meant so much, but within a week things changed

please help as I'm confused not to mention the sadness and lonliness I'm experiencing

what do you think to it all?

If nothing can happen then he is bound to move on with time, you should do the same, or face the consequences. As for the flirting in work he is sending mixed signals, but I would imagine his head it pretty mashed up, as yours is by the sound of things. Either speak to him, tell him how you feel, but if your sure that's not the best idea I would say either go along with him as its obvious it will dwindle out, so enjoy it while it lasts, or you do it first if you think he might possibly be playing games with you, end it first by quitting replying to his texts and stop the flirting. Hope this helps