My Son will be sharing a room with my ex and his new girlfriend?
My son's father and I have lived separately for about two years, sharing custody pretty evenly. We do not have a court order, just an informal arrangement which has worked fine.
Since moving out, my ex has lived with his brother in a 2-bedroom apt, so when our son is with him, they share a room. My son is five. My ex is starting a relationship with a new woman. It has been a long distance relationship for about five months and they decided pretty quickly that she would move out here (completely across the country) to be with him. (Note, she has been married for 12 years and is left her husband within the first month of connecting with my ex online).
So... she will be here by June 1st and they expect that all three of them, she, my ex and my son will share a room during their time together. OK, so there are so many red flags here, right? But my concern is that this huge transition into my son's life is going to be confusing enough - that I'd like them to let him sleep at my house until they find a larger space where he can have his own room. They say they are on the look out for such a place, but they will NOT agree to my suggestion.
So - what's the right perspective? Am I being a control freak by voicing my concern about the three of them sharing a room? It just feels so wrong to me. He says they will not have sex while my son is there... but I don't believe him. And even if not... is it creepy to have that sleeping arrangement considering that my son does not know this woman at all? When I approach it, my ex just chocks it up to me being jealous, or controlling... jealous no, controlling maybe.
But... really? As a mom... what's the right thing to do?
HELP!