I am 45 years old and my mother still puts me down and uses me financially. She has my credit card that she uses for gas and her medicines which is about 80 dollars a month and I pay her cable bill and phone bill. When she buys my son a christmas present, she uses my credit card. She has two other children that she loves and I am the most successful of the three and the one which causes her the less trouble. I cannot stop crying because she went into the hospital and no one called me to let me know she was there. She turned her back when I wnet into the hospital room. She almost died from a heart attack and she still cannot show love for me or appreciation for what I do for her. My decision is to stay away from her even if it means her dying. What do you all suggest I should do.

Love yourself, you are never going to get the relationship you desire from your mother and that is out of your hands.

Do what is right and healthy for you and for the love and respect you have for yourself and cut all ties. It will be painful, but it won't be any more painful than the relationship that you have with her currently.

I can only tell you not to take her actions personally, as she is acting on her own thinking, and may have some deep resentments, that she has taken out on you. Regrettable and tragic, especially given the turn of events, and I would be very sad for what she is going through and the burden she still carries. All you can do is pray for them, and hope one day the truth will bring them peace, even though they turn their back to you.

Will it take a lot out of you? Without a doubt, but you will find the inner strength to get through this.

You can only do so much and try so hard for so long.
Find the strength to love yourself now. Its your life.

You can't buy her love, so stop trying. Focus on what a good person you are and don't let her attitude drag you down. You know you've done everything possible. The problem lies within her, not you!