My daughter is getting married in a few months. She is 26. Her mother passed away 5 years ago. Prior to that we had been divorced 7 years. I have been dating a woman for over 10 years. She and my daughter have a so-so relationship. Should I have my friend sit with me or does she sit with her family?

DouglasC

I would discuss with your daughter how she feels about it.

If she feels strongly that your girlfriend would be usurping her mother's place at the front of the church, then she should be seated with her family. If your daughter doesn't have strong feelings about it one way or another, then she should sit with you.

Your girlfriend should, however, be seated with you at dinner.

If you and your girl friend are open, ask your daughter, this is her day, if you latter marry your girlfiend, than that will be her day

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Originally Posted by Crystalline

It is only appropriate that your girlfriend by you. When the bride and groom are married and walk out you will be walking alone - or will your daughter have someone else with you. It seems that your daughter wants everyone to know that this woman is of no significance to her nor to her dad. I feel sorry for her. What kind of dress is she wearing? Is she going to get her hair and nails done with all the others? Has she been included in anyway. Sounds like she is being alienated and this is not a so-so relationship. You should be discussing this with your long time friend. I wonder how you feel. You should pick a special song ,have it announced and dance with your friend. Are you willing to make her special in any way. The daughter needs to grow up.

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Are you KIDDING? It's the DAUGHTER"S wedding---and this is a girlfriend of her dad's--not her stepmom, not his wife--a GIRLFRIEND.

If the dad's girlfriend needs to feel special and not "alienated" then she should be plannign her OWN wedding, not trying to change the focus of his daughter's wedding.

IF the bride's dad had married this woman, I'd feel more like she should be included, if only for propriety's sake. However, they are NOT married, so that gives her NO special distinction whatsoever at his daughter's wedding.