I met this couple last summer in a college class and we got along very well so we continued being friends. I learned about them and found that their marriage is friendly, but shows no real emotional love. It seems that they stay with each other because they need each other for all the reasons that aren't marital reasons. She thought about leaving him before she met me, and before her father passed away, but now it seems the main reason why she stays with him is because he holds memory of her father because they lived together with him. He doesn't beat her but does talk down to her like a dog (when she isn't feeling sad though), she cries at LEAST once a week, and he has threatened to leave her on multiple occasions. But I think the main reason he stays with her is to mooch off her uncle's money and father's death insurance money... the only reason why they are surviving and he abuses the money. (for example the other day we went out to the mall to pick up his two new Wii Video Games but he suddenly decided without her opinion "hey there's a PS2 console for sale" and got it... happens all the time and neither of them have a job) And through all this they both live in her father's house and it looks like crap because they don't put much effort in keeping it clean. But this wasn't any of my concern until about a month ago... The wife came to me and said she had an attraction for me. I am 19 years old and honestly classify myself as an emotional guy (They are 27 and married for 6 years). I thought of this as a cry for help and tried helping her for a while asking her difficult questions about her marriage and whether it's worth it or not to cheat on her husband and whatnot and said if she divorced with her husband we could work things out and so I didn't get involved for a while. But one day she waited for me at her house and one thing led to another that day, and led there again for the past few weeks. I have never been in a serious relationship before but I do love her to death and she loves me. I really feel that she should leave him whether she is with me, because all I want is her to be happy. Time is limited on my side because I have a lot of things going on at 19 years old and may be leaving her soon and I don't want to leave her alone if she does get a divorce. She talked to her husband about leaving him and he threatened suicide and made her feel bad about leaving him. He does not know about us but things are getting to the point where we both want to just tell him to get things over with. Several times throughout the weeks she wanted me to marry her, just wanted him to walk in on us, just tell him that she loves me instead. I told her she didn't want that and neither did the they in the end. And it sounds like she needs an excuse to leave him. They are seeing marriage counselers now but I want to know how I can end this all, what I can say to her to ease things, but I honestly can't believe things can work out between them and I partly blame myself for giving into temptations. She has had a past of thinking of cheating on him before and I believe she will again even if I'm gone and she stays with him. I don't know how long we can keep this secret and live this lie, and I don't think she will ever be able to look at him the same way. There may be more to this story that I forgot to mention but any comments would help, thanks.