I'm kind of curious as to how the women here feel about performing oral sex. The only references I have are some shady surveys that say most women love it. I don't expect that to be 100% true, I'm just curious as to how REAL women feal about it.
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I'm kind of curious as to how the women here feel about performing oral sex. The only references I have are some shady surveys that say most women love it. I don't expect that to be 100% true, I'm just curious as to how REAL women feal about it.
You will find some that love it, some hate it, and some put up with it.
When it is all said and done it is like many sexual practices.
I realize that, I guess I more just want to hear it coming from a real person, rather than a bargraph.
Personally it's not for me, I have other issues and I can't get around them. Most women enjoy it or do it because the man enjoys it. I just plain won't, my issue, just can't.
I happen to think that if a woman is in love with a man that the man's penis is the most perfect object provided it is the right size to fit into the mouth. If the man just relaxes and lets the woman do her thing - then it is pleasureable to both of them. It's funny but if I am really in love with the guy then I love his entire anatomy. It is fun to pleasure another person - but only if you want to do it. Nothing forced is ever any fun. I don't think it has anything to do with being a REAL woman either. Real women don't have to do this. It's only in a guy's mind that she HAS to do this in order to be a supposed real woman. I think it's basically a woman's prerogative if she wishes to do this or not.
I think that at first most women are emotionally blackmailed into fellatio... and these days at way too young an age. NO woman just wakes up one morning and thinks... I'll put his dirty penis in my mouth!
Enjoying fellatio is an acquired pleasure.
My *guess* is that most wives are not all that interested, just pressured. .
I LOVE performing fellatio. My husband says that my enthusiasm alone makes me good at it, too.
I was never pressured into doing it, and I never saw it on a porn, either, before the first time I did it. It was really like... hmmmm... he likes it when I touch him there, and he likes it when I kiss him... I wonder if he'd like it if I kissed him there?
Of course, I was a lot more innocent at that age than most girls are these days.
Frankly... I like to please my man, I like the power trip of knowing that *I* am just *that* good at pleasing him, and frankly, I think it's a fun part of foreplay.
I agree with Choux. It's an acquired pleasure.
I think it's OK once in a while when it's with someone I'm crazy for.
But I'm not so wild about it that I work glory holes.
Personally, it hurts my jaw.
When I said "real women" I was referring to to the fact that my only references have been surveys and shady statistics. I wasn't trying to say that "real" women don't do it. Sorry for the confusion. And thanks for all the feedback!
All I can do is tell you what I've been told from other women about this... and its all you've already read here.
Most don't love it. Most don't hate it. In discussion on this board before id say it was almost half-half... with some disliking it or indifferent, some even hating it... and then the others who said they loved it.
I completely agree with the statement about some feeling pressured... in some cases, oral seems to be used as a bridge between abstinence and intercourse... for ex, the first girl I seriously dated was a virgin, as was I, HS years. We didn't have intercourse until over 2 years into the relationship... but hand stim and oral came around much earlier. In this case, she initiated oral, and seemed interested enough. Of course I was thrilled.
Later in the relationship, after wed had intercourse, oral to completion was less pursued... and as a guy I wanted it more, and she was less interested in it.
A later girl absolutely loved the act. Period. Shed stop in the hallway and push you against the wall. Man... that was lovely. I miss that hallway. ;)
And then another girl didn't like it one bit. She loved intercourse to get her to completion, but would just as soon have the guy go to the bathroom and finish himself off. So her thinking was a little different than some.
In college I found myself in a room with about 20 girls who were talking about oral... was a house with a big dining area... and I was in heaven, surrounded by women talking about oral sex. Of those, the numbers were skewed I think... it was new enough that many were still intrigued, some were already put off, a few seemed to love it and defended the act to all ends.
More guys love receiving it than women who absolutely love giving it. Many women are willing because of the mans response. And if there's balance in the relationship, all seems better... if you have a healthy experience with intercourse, oral now and then is a nice, selfless way to change things up. And I've always received more when I give more first.
I can't answer for other women, but I know I love it.
One of my fave parts of foreplay, no question.
I remember when I first met my boyfriend, he wasn't overly into it at all, could take it or leave it, I sent him a message one night telling him I would have to do something about that!
I don't hate or love giving oral sex, I just honestly feel like it is apart of sexual intercourse... but when I do it, I put my all into it.
Why did you give me a reddie then? :(Quote:
Originally Posted by KateBell88
I dated a lady that , when kissing , would not allow the use of any tongue at all but when it came to oral sex... OH MY GOD!! Her thought that using the tongue while kissing was dirty and unsanitary!! Well , I am not saying that oral sex is unsanitary but GEEZ,, Needless to say she truly enjoyed oral sex,, giving and receiving... Gee,, I miss her!!
Rupe dude,
I guess you don't understand the difference between an answer, and what an individual enjoys in his/her sex life!!
As an individual, I enjoyed fellatio a lot. :D
Not in to it either. It really is a give and take and most men I know just take so I am not giving! ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Altenweg
I must ask... What is stopping you from finding her? Life is too short to just think about her when you could reach out and see her!:DQuote:
Originally Posted by Handyman2007
For me it is a loss of power, of control, I feel that I'm not in an equal position, that I'm being submissive, I have major issues with that because of past experiences. It's not a preference issue, it's a power issue.Quote:
Originally Posted by BlueSeptember
It's interesting that you see it that way, Alty.
I see it as a power thing too--but that *I* am the one in power. To have that kind of control over my man's pleasure is a HUGE power trip for me--to me, it's the GUY that's in a position of submission.
I'm not saying you're wrong, or your opinion is bad, or anything like that. I just truly think it's interesting how different people view it.
Trust me, I am the minority in this one Synn. Other people have said the same thing to me, that they feel they are in a position of power when performing oral sex, I've never met anyone that feels the same way I do.
I truly feel a lack of power, once again because of past experiences. When you are forced to do something once, you don't ever view it in the same way again. I've tried to get over that feeling, but haven't been successful with that. It's my issue, and I envy all of you who don't have the same issues, I really do.
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