Relationship issues with friends and hanging out/clubbing
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and for the first year and a half he still saw his friend pretty often like one or two times a week and I did not complain until I found out that he was telling one of his female friends that she was his first choice and until he started ignoring our plans and arriving two hours late as he was with his friends and his excuse is that there was a LOT of traffic. We had a big fight over this and he stopped seeing them and we were pretty fine. When my friends did a reunion (which was like once a year) he told me that he doesn't like me going out and him staying at home and that if I go (we were going to dinner) he would go out with his friends and his friends only go clubbing and strip clubs so I cancelled each plan. He used to also get pissed off when he sees a conversation about me and my friends planning something and he used to take my mobile to check whether I was the one coming up with these events so I finally stopped every contact with all my friends and we were fine. After around a year he started going out with his work friends around once a month and I have no problem with him going out to dinner, bike rides, etc but he started telling me that they were going to dinner and then later I find out from Facebook that he was actually clubbing till 4am in the morning and I got really angry as I did a lot for him from my end and he ignored me and went out clubbing when he knew that I stopped hanging out with my friends as he did not like it. This caused a lot of fighting and on one Sunday he ignored me and went out with his friends to a bar and lied to me that he was at his friends house only for me to find out in the morning that he was out clubbing. He now wants to keep going out with his friends at work and with his other group of friends (they always go out drinking) every week while I stay at home as I have no friends left. I also told his mother that he is lying to me about where he goes and she took his side and told me that he loves me but that I should leave him free to go out where he wants and he will eventually come back. I was really pissed off and feeling totally devastated as I did everything for him only to get this. Am I overreacting? As sometimes I feel that I should leave but other times I think that I may be crazy.