ex girlfriend annoyed about no contact
I am 31, she is 29.
So its been a few weeks of minimal contact with texts all initiated by her (with no response by me) telling me that she will always love me and she misses me and is sorry for hurting me, wished me a happy holiday "even though it is not with her". Along with tension filled face to face visits while she got her things out of my place. I sent this message to my x.
"I really think that breaking up was a good idea. I have some big decisions to make and need time to think them over. Moving forward, I would appreciate it if you didn't contact me."
She responded
"No problem. Ill let you know when i am coming by to get things and it would be nice if you werent there. Clearly you used me and got everything that you could take from me and you dont care what happens to me. At least I know what kind of person you really are.
So have a nice life."
The truth is the I am a very nice guy, early on in the relationship a bit jealous but have grown out of that pretty well. This is our 3rd, maybe 4th breakup and I am going to no-contact much sooner and without all of the pleading and neediness. She is taking it as I am being mean by not helping her pack her things and such which is ridiculous.
This is another case of her wanting to "not be in a relationship and focus on her career." I take that to mean that she wants to meet other guys and not feel guilty when she flirts with them but whatever. The back and forth thing is getting old but I really love her more than anything in the world and would like things to work out. She is a very special girl that has some issues that she needs to work out with trust and commitment.
Yesterday I had a conversation with her mom (they have a very tense relationship, always fighting) and was told that she went off on her mom for taking my side (not sure what that even means, her mom just told her that this is difficult for the two of you and she wishes us both the best) and said that "he doesn't even want to marry me and he never talks about rings". I have been very busy with work but every time we talk about rings it is fun and I am positive and tell her as soon as I can financially get the ring she deserves I would love to marry her. Here's the deal, I have the setting just not the diamond so I was in shock to hear that she thinks I don't want to marry her. She never mentioned that as a problem to me during this breakup at all.
What to do? I guess the no-contact is the way to go and it is actually so much easier the 4th time around. Her family and all of her friends tell me that she loves me and doesn't want to meet anyone else but she is just a difficult emotional person. Oh, one other thing, this always happens when she is pms'ing. I am not being sexist but that is really the case. The day after she did it she told this to her best friend and was saying how she doesn't know if she made the right decision or not.
Thoughts?