Gf of 3 years decided she needs space while Im deployed...
Ive been with this girl for almost 3 years. Been up and down as some relationships are but ever since I deployed it was on a real high and right after valentines it all fell apart. She met a new girlfriend that has similar interests and grew up in the same area and but met in our town 700 miles away from there. The girl has basically replaced me as someone she can lean on and talk to daily. Long story short I'm still deployed but the GF is moving out and in with 2 other girls as she says needs time to figure herself out (shes 22 I'm 32) and what she really wants as she feels trapped in our relationship all the sudden. Says she's been holding on to feelings for almost 2 years about something that happened back then. Says its better that she goes now and figures out what she wants before things get any further.
I really don't know how this is going to pan out but everyone tells me "never know" blah blah blah so I'm trying to settle in and realize she's gone for good but just can't seem to grasp it I guess. We are back to talking cordially and we have 3 dogs which kind of ties us together because they are like kids to us but I don't want to be strung along either. Ideally id like to stay busy but there's only so much to do out here where I work 12-16 hours a day at a desk with nothing but my thoughts.
Guess I'm just looking for advice. Trying to maintain no contact but until she's out of my house it's a little hard to do that and she refuses to transfer the phone to her own name which means I have to contact her for the money for the phone bill.
Comment on Jake2008's post
Thanks for the encouraging words. Luckily we don't have any financial matters between us and unfortunately I don't have any one that can close up my house for me. Been holding out on the phone since its cheaper for her to transfer it than it is for me to have to eat the cancellation fees.
Comment on ITstudent2006's post
Thank you for clarifying and yes I understand mission comes first but to just drop and forget about your life back home has not been the easiest thing. Fortunately I don't lead any squads and don't go outside the wire. We used to skype daily just to see each others face but than it all went away and I can't even get her to return a text message some days. It is what it is and Im going forward with NC and seeing where I'm at once I rotate back to the states.
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