I've adopted my 2 "step" daughters when they were 6 and 9. I've been with their father since they were 4 and 7. their biological mother ran out when they were 6m and 3y. Everything has been fine, except the Younger daughter, now 8, has always been a little more difficult than the older daughter who's now 11. The 8y daughter has ALWAYS had issues minding me, listening to me and just flat respecting me as a person. She would act one way when its just us at home ( me and all 5 kids ) which is when The issues are worse. Once dad comes home there's no problem listening to him, and respecting him. Our other 4 see the night and day difference. She's recently decided she wants to live with her biological mother and has gone to the point of saying shell do whatever she needs to ,to split me and her dad up. She got to see her biological maternal grandmother up until a year ago when she completely quiy calling or texting. 8y thinks its my fault. Our 11y would tell us after their visits with grandmother that she would tell them how their "real mom" has changed so much and wanted to see them ( again, no calls or texts) and how I'm just a "gold digger" ( I make plenty without my husbands help). Me and my husband are at the end of our rope. Please help