I can't handle my boyfriend going out to bar/club?
My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 3 years now, and the thing is.. ever since he had been with another girl a year ago while we were broken up.. it was hard for me to trust, but he gained it back.. and then after a while when he started "going out" I started having this recurring dreams, of him cheating on me because that's all I thought about, day and night when I'm not with him, we hang out everyday though for about 4 5 hours a day and the thing is he turned 21 a month ago, and he goes to the bar at least once a week.. which is fine right? And also I'm not old enough, I got about 4 more years to go lol.. I mean he goes out with my brother... (me and my brother do not get a long and he does not like the fact I'm with his best friend so he would do nethin to sabotage and ruin the relationship).. and my bro use to tell my boyfriend "lets go with these girls..." my boyfriend told him no... and I hope that's how it stayed... and so when he dresses up and goes out wit my bro and som other friends and drinks at the bar/club its soooo hard for me! I don't want to be whining but usually I'm fine with it for lets say... an hour and then when it starts to get late I get REAL worried, I mean come on at 1 in the morning your out at the bar? U have a GF? Ugh jeez... he calls me always when he gets home though.. so I don't know why its so difficult for me to trust him...
Its just the fact that, he's out and I have NO clue/idea what he's doing... also if he goes out and shoots some pool... does he go out and shoot pool or is it a diff. story? So many of these kinds of questions go through my mind every time he goes out... and I feel so bad because he doesn't even go out a lot.. and if he does he calls me when he gets home... and I DO not want to be controlling.. because he lets me go out too.. so I don't know what to do I just seem I can't take it anymore at times... I get real anxious and I start crying until I cry myself to sleep..
Its starting to make me feel physicall and mentally ill... and it stresses/wares me out... especially because I've been having dreams of him cheating on me and us getting into fights CONSTANTLY, like its just recurring non stop... so girls and/or guys please tell me what to do or some tip or advice please?:confused::(
In a fight with a boyfriend, but weird dream?
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It seems though as if every time we get in a fight or don't talk for a while, I have dreams of us as normal, smiling, hanging out, laughing, and usually I have a dream of us "making UP"...
Then when we are good, I have dreams of us fighting and not talking and perhaps him cheating and then getting into a fight...
Anybody know why this happens?