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  • Aug 8, 2012, 09:04 AM
    zhenenlim
    What message is hidden in this text message?
    I just meet a girl I like in past 2 months. Recently we had more contacts as we studied together. I had written a letter to the girl, asking if there are any possibilities between me and her to be a couple in future ( I do this because if there is no possibilities, I won't continue to pursue her, instead just took her as study partner )

    She text me, telling me that she admires that I had gathered my confidence to pass her the letter. She was still in shock when she saw me give her this letter. She appreciate me as a friend. Then the most important part comes, she said she can't see her future yet, so she just simply can't say that we have no possibility in future. But for now, she still not yet prepared for a relationship and still want to continue our friendship.

    So, do she trying to tell me there is possibility, and I should continue my pursue? Or I just go on and find other girls?
  • Aug 8, 2012, 09:42 AM
    dreamer22
    You should go look for other girls
  • Aug 8, 2012, 12:42 PM
    talaniman
    Keep her as a friend, and study partner, but find other girls.

    There is no hidden meaning, she just wants to be friends.
  • Aug 8, 2012, 04:50 PM
    monsieurjj
    just value the friendship as it is who knows I think you just pressured her.
    Stay friends, if there is an opportunity for a new girl go for it
  • Aug 8, 2012, 05:10 PM
    zhenenlim
    I think I just hold off for time being, because I think I really had pressured her as I keep help her this and that... thanks a lot for the response
  • Aug 8, 2012, 06:21 PM
    mmresd
    She is telling you no, in a very respectful way as a friend should. Continue the friendship, if she ever feels romantic in the future, she will bring it up again, but I wouldn't hold my breath.
  • Aug 8, 2012, 07:05 PM
    monsieurjj
    mmresd is correct just always show your best self and never pretend she may like you or not but at least you are real
  • Aug 9, 2012, 05:10 AM
    zhenenlim
    You... I keep telling myself to stop thinking about her, I can't stop myself from liking a girl, but at least I can stop my mind to think about her... Thanks a lot guys :D
  • Aug 9, 2012, 11:51 AM
    mmresd
    You don't need to stop thinking about her, just stop thinking about her romantically, if she is a friend, and you are not obsessed, it shouldn't be TOO difficult. If you are obsessed, then it is time to back away, at least until the feelings die down.
  • Aug 9, 2012, 05:19 PM
    zhenenlim
    mmresd, somehow I think you had a lot of experience, you had read through what happening in my mind now, thank you, you had waken me up from these kind of bull thing
  • Aug 9, 2012, 05:25 PM
    mmresd
    I know what it is to be obsessed, and it is very hard to get out of it. It is A LOT easier to avoid it, thank god that at least now I recognize it early.
  • Aug 9, 2012, 05:33 PM
    zhenenlim
    Yeap, thanks god that I haven't put in much of me to her

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