While not married, my girlfriend and I have lived together for 7 years now. We are officially engaged, but she has put off marriage for financial reasons that I can understand. This summer though, she had an affair. I finally figured it out from all the lies, working late, needing to be "alone" , etc. There were also a lot of other signs that something was going on including a forgotten birthday and a very indifferent attitude. Anyway I finally confronted her with my suspicions and she denied it totally. Okay, but the next weekend she had to have some "alone time" again and when she came home she had obviously not been alone. Confrontation again and denial once again.
About 4 weeks ago all of this suddenly ended. She became friendly, talkative and our sex life became much better than before. She appears to be going where she says she is and doing what she says she is going to do, etc, and communication seems to be good once again. Now I don't want to seem really clueless here, but is this a sign that the affair is over? Or, has my confrontation simply driven it underground? Or are we on the way to recovery? It's very difficult to talk with her about something that never "happened" so I can't seem to get the subject opened up with her. Not sure whether to pack my bags or not at this point. Still taking a wait and see position.
Thanks