Should I stay in a abusive relationship with a cheater?
Hi.. I was in a relationship for 5 yrs.. my boyfriend was very good when I met him but unfortunately things change. He was a weed addict who consumes weed daily at least two joints.
Initially I used to fight with him to quit, but he started to beat me up really bad, so I stopped asking him to quit, and put up with it. After 2 yrs of our relationship, he started cheating on me, but what hurt me the most is the way he insults me, and throws me like dirt, when he finds a gal. He would say that he is not happy with me, and that I should go away, and find someone else.
He has done this to me twice in the past... but the second gal he cheated on told me stuff like he has been talking crap about me to her like I am an orphan, and he left me long ago because I dated 3 guys at a time etc and he has promised to marry that gal as well... he promised me several times tat he would marry me and that's why I was with him.I have tried leaving him million times when he used to beat me up for dope and gals and friends etc but he always came back to me and said that he loved me and wanted to marry me and never repeat the mistakes and I went back to him but a month ago he did the same he found another gal and told me that he doesn't want me anymore, and he will never marry me etc.
He avoided my calls and didn't even let me step into his house... but for the last 5 yrs I have taken acre of him like my own child and he had no gratitude for me.. he has beaten me several times in public as well for petty issues like I couldn't give him instructions to get to place, he has beaten me for asking me why he cheated on me.
One day he came home with love bites form one the gals he cheated me with and when I asked him and questioned him he beat me up... he beat me up when I caught him cheating on me... he is verbally very abusive... abuses me and my family and for no reason... he is very irritated when he is not under the influence of weed but once he dopes he is the most loving person... maybe that's why I stuck on to him.
Now he asked me to get out of his life because of the new gal he found... I don't think I want to ever go back to him but all I want to know is that after sinning against me so much, and playing with my emotions to such a great extent and taking advantage of me... will god keep him happy? Will he ever shed at least one tear thinking of what he did to me.. I have cried million times because he hurt me physically and mentally.. would he at least cry once in his life?
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Good sound advice.
The op needs to get proactive now and help herself.