Non sexual relationship dating and relationship manipulation
I am in a relationship with a guy that I believe to be a really good guy, he is 16 yrs my senior( I'm 23). He has been married once and has 3 kids from that marriage, he says he has never been in a non-sexual relationship and neither have I ,but I am starting to become more active in my church and I don't want to be a hypocrite in the church, claiming to be a good Christian while being in a sexual relationship and I told him this, we agreed to try it(a non-sexual relationship) and do our best, but the very next week, he didn't call me except once and when I called him, he either didn't answer or he talked with me for like 6 minutes at the most, this concerned me because we started the relationship out as a sexual relationship and stopping so suddenly , I feel, is grounds for a break up.
Also, he usually calls me Monday through Wednesday three times a day, like on his breaks at work and after work, then I ll call him the rest of the week, if I'm not visiting him and he always asks me what my plans for the week are and if I plan to come stay with him, but all of sudden he wasn't asking. Anyway, the schedule we had for seven weeks just suddenly changed right after we decided to make this decision, its concerning. Then today he calls me and tells me he's in need, I understand this, you know, two way street, so I'm like okay we'll lets get together, but he said to me that the reason he hadn't talked to me as much the week before was because he was "following My rules" about being non-sexual and I'm like well I certainly don't like not being able to talk to you for a week or seeing you and so I ll give you what you want, but them I'm like that's very manipulative and he says things like this all the time, like they make sense but they make whatever I did or decided, the wrong thing to do, even though it wasn't. I shouldn't be punished for something we both discussed and agreed we would try, right?
And that's what his not talking to or seeing me in a week was, some sort of psychology or reverse psychology thing to let me "see" how he was feeling about being deprived of something that he really enjoys(the sex), by depriving me of himself because just talking to him or being with him makes me happy and is something I enjoy. His manipulation is not right and I know I have to confront him about it, but what's the best way to go about doing so for someone who doesn't like confrontation or in other words is a coward or "weak minded" like they say- someone like me :(?
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Would a man take his booty call to meet his good friends, mom and other family members? Friends maybe , but his mom and family??
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Okay true enough I guess I'll just go on faith here, thank you smoothy