Confused: Is it friendship or love?
I am 27. I met G through a K whom I was dating at that point of time. Me and G whom is a divorcée became good friends and there was some sort of attraction (not physical) between us. Eventually I broke up with K and am single now. I always meet G up and spend hours just talking about anything at all. My friends have met us and so has his friends. They all seem to think we have so much of chemistry and sparks between us. We speak may times in a day via the phone and we always know what one is doing. At times I feel like we are in a relationship but not really exactly there. I feel the love he has for me in his actions, conversations and the fact we can't seem to be apart (not intimately) from each other. Despite of 4 years being friends to G we have not been intimately involved. If I were to say something hurtful he takes it personally. I have other male friends who don't react like this but G will make me feel his pain too. Its as if I mean a lot to him and for me to utter hurtful comments to him is just unacceptable. I know G is much more special to me. So one fine day I decided to confess my love for him. His reply to me was shocking. G said I spoiled the friendship and he no longer wants to have any contact with me. I was petrified, confused and literally pushed right back on the wall. Despite that we made contact after about 3 weeks of no communication. To date we are back to like how we were before I confessed my love for him. We are great friends I don't deny it. We understand each other perfectly and emotionally. My question is how can a guy spend so much time with a gal and yet claim its just pure friendship? I know I love him but how can I get him to actually confess he's in love with me too? Is this kind of friendship possible or am I reading the signals wrongly? I am confused.