Husband does not desire me
My husband is arabic, he is 36 and I am 54, we met online and have been married almost 5 years. He is here in the usa on a permanent green card. We are both muslim.
I am heavy and was when we married. I am also on a diet and have lost 25 pds. I have had a hysterectomy 4 years ago. Last week, we had sexual relations, we both have orgasms, but he does not enjoy his. I finally pried out of him that he does not feel me as he would like, saying that my vagina is too deep and that he has talked to other men, truck drivers, and they told him it is because of my age and that there is nothing that can be done about it. He says there is this missing from our marriage. He told me that if he had known this, he would not have married me. He was a virgin when we married as per islam so he had no knowledge of sex. He also told me that he has kept this secret from me for 2 years. He does not plan to leave me, but he says that he cannot enjoy sex with me, but is glad that I enjoy it. I asked him why didn't you tell me this long before. H He said he didn't want to hurt me. I told him I will see a doctor to get a surgery for correction. He is convinced by supposedly reading research online that a surgery will not work and does not want me to waste my time with this. I need help. If anyone can tell me something about this I would appreciate it. I am a nurse and do have some knowledge. Please, if you know that a surgery would help, let me know. I am in love with my husband and I want to be able to please him.
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