Leaving out of state; Major relationship decision.
Hi, I need advice on a decision I have to make about moving upstate NY. I currently live in NYC. I have family out here, a job, friends, and a son whose mother and I are separated (but I still get my son every weekend through court visitation).
My current girlfriend is now 3 months pregnant and she grew up in Utica, NY but moved as a teen to the city because of household problems, but now she wants to move back to be with her mom and siblings. We are now living in my moms living room sleeping on an air mattress so we do need to make some type of move, but I feel this one is drastic. She is 19 years old and I am 24.
Through arguments and indecisiveness she finally just decided to buy an apartment which we have yet to move into. Utica, NY is 5-6 hours away from the city. Should I risk everything on our relationship? My relationship with my son? We are suppose to move on December 17th. I have already put in a transfer request from my job here to the Best Buy in Utica but I was denied. She is ADAMANT about going upstate with or without me and says she doesn't want to raise her baby in the city. If I stay and let her go, then our relationship is over, and I will have two kids whom I am separated from their mother.
I really do love her and want to be with her, and if I didn't have a son out here already, it wouldn't even be a problem, but I do have a son. He is 3 years old and I haven't, not seen him for more than 2 and a half weeks in his life. It will break my heart to sever that bond, even partially.
Does anyone know what I should do, or how I should go about this?