Originally Posted by lacuran8626
You were married a long time, and hurt very deeply both by your husband and by your foster child. That impropriety of their relationship is another whole chapter. Bottom line, what happened to you was perhaps the worst experience you will ever go through in your life. It's ok to protect your feelings a little by taking some time, which is how I see your choices.
It's really, really new and one day you may need to push yourself to get out there and date, but for now, just plan some lunches with friends and see your family, and pursue your own interests. When you feel good about where you are at with yourself, and feel like you have made some progress in recovering from this horrible event in your life, you can push yourself a little further to get back out there again.