What should I do?
Hello, usually I don't like posting my private life but seems as though I could really use help.
My wife celebrated her birthday yesterday. We went to the Spa - me, her friend, a friend of mine and my wife. We left at 2:15 as my wife and her friend had lunch set for 2:45. I am not much of a Spa person so we left as I had to go pick up the cup cakes for the birthday.
We wine to my friends house and a had a BBQ as we waited for a few hours. At that time I didn't drink at all.
I picked up my wife and went to her cousins house who lived near the place we were going for diner. Over there we had a shot and a beer. We went to the restaurant and my wife ordered 2 bottles of champagne and appetizers which was fine as we have to thank our guests for coming. Over there I had a shot and half a beer. Sober as a dog! But I have got drunk precious years at her birthday so this year I made sure I was not.
Instead of a cake I got 2 customized cup cakes for her and her cousin for there birthday and mini cup cakes for all the guests. I didn't think that was a bad idea. I went to feed my and accidentally poked her eye. Everyone left. I paid out portion which was pricey and we dropped her cousin home, hung out for a bit and left.
On the car ride she kept saying turn here but I know so I snapped at her. Perhaps I shouldn't have but I was getting annoyed.
This morning we got into a huge argument regarding last night. She said I was drunk and NO I was not and I fought that. I told her I had 4 drinks and that's it. She was mad about the cupcake instead of a cake. I bought her a beautiful watch that everyone loved, but she said she didn't want a watch and told me that before but I had already bought the watch. By the her watch is very old and warn out.
She said I didn't do anything and she planned it all. Yes she did plan it but st the same time when I do something for my birthday I plan it myself.
I feel like I am picking in things now but she did not get me a cake for my birthday, and I didn't say anything nor cared. For my birthday we went out of town, and she was mad because we spend so much money, but she doesn't realize her birthday cost just as much but I did not say anything.
I really love my wife, and yes I know I am not perfect, and to be honest I have a track record that shows so. But I made a solid effort last night and yet she is mad, upset, and when that happens I shut down.
Anyone have any advice or anything to help me with?
Thanks,
Al