Hi everybody,
Hoping youīre all having a wonderful Christmas.
I wonder if you have some advice regarding a difficult neighbor.
We share a house that has been converted into two flats. We own both our separate flats, the garden and driveway 50/50.
She is quite friendly and nice to get on with, but she has been unemployed for years. She has no disability and is a young, healthy woman with a young son, separated from her hubby.
I have my niece to care for, 10 years old, and I work hard. I have offered to help her find work, but she told me sheīd rather marry some rich guy. It falls on me to pay for most of the maintenance since I have income and her parents pay her mortgage.
Lately sheīs been really stressed and mean to me. Finally we had an argument the day before Christmas. I had been working and shopping until late, and needed to ask her if she could help me fix the broken light on the driveway. She got really angry, but I refused to argue, went inside to finish working. She then crossed the line by sending me an ugly text message with such hatred I got scared for the safety of my niece, my cats and myself.
The problem with her is that she lives above me and is really noisy. She walks on high heals on a parquet, bangs pots and pans together, vacuum-cleans at all hours and lets her son hop on the floor over the kitchen so things fall out of my shelves. She lets her friends park in my parking space and when I put up a no parking sign, she got furious. Her parents use the driveway for their horse caravans, trailors etc. I told them to remove the whole lot, so they donīt talk to me.
She bangs on my door at all times when she needs to borrow sugar, milk, you name it. Iīve told her my flat is sometimes my office, but she has no regards for that.
Now I feel intimated in my own flat. Sheīs been away for Christmas but is back with crashing noise, Iīm not talking to her and I wonder what to say to her the next time I meet her. I really donīt want another confrontation.
Violet