Girlfriend of 2 years losing interest? Lack of affection and sex less often.
I'm going to start from the very beginning. We started University and within 2 months I met her and instantly fell in love with her. I was always the one chasing her and asking if she wanted to meet up for this and that. She NEVER ended an evening of hanging out saying that she would like to see me the next day and never said anything like 'so what are you up to Wednesday?' etc. She was very shy and quiet however and was more of a listener and would very rarely open up to me.
After a few weeks a friend of mine let the cat out of the bag that I liked her and I thought that my chances of being in a relationship with her were very slim so I told her how I felt and asked her if she wanted to be with me, I wasn't going to get my hopes up and I expected a rejection. But I felt I had no choice as the guy stupidly told her. To my surprise she said yes. After a week or so of further hanging out together we hung out at my room (I was living in a student accommodation hall with about 30 other guys and she was from a small block of around 8 girls) and we got drunk one night and I said she could stay the night instead of walking back in the cold. She climbed in bed with me and we fell asleep. Days and weeks went by and she started living in my room and slowly clothes from her room migrated into mine and she moved in.
We would have a lot of fun together and it was great and we made out a lot and we were both happy. It came to the point where I broke down in front of her and said that I loved her, this clearly scared her and she obviously didn't feel the same for me after such little time and she went back to her accommodation to give me some space and she was shocked for a while until she came back. One night as we were watching a film at mine, there was a knock at my door and it turned out to be one of her friends and she asked to speak to her in private. Basically this friend of hers said that her housemates were worried about her and had not seen her in weeks, which was true as she was spending all her time with me (I was not controlling her in any way, it was her own choosing) they said that there were other guys out there and that she should choose her friends over me. This made me very upset and my girlfriend got very angry with them and decided to stay with me over them.
Living in an all male accommodation was very hard for her for going to the toilet etc and to avoid contact with her old friends she would sneak out late at night to have a shower at her old place without being seen. We lived like this until the end of the semester. A friend of mine heard that I was looking to move into a small house and she said there was a room I could rent that she was moving out of. I moved in and my girlfriend also ended up moving into a room there too as it would have been awkward for her to have moved back into her old accommodation after ignoring the girls there for so long.
We have been together for almost 2 years now and are still living together. It took us 2 months before we had sex and we were both virgins. Sex was not great at the beginning but it was new for the both of us and extremely fun and sometimes we had sex twice a day. After a while I got more sexual confidence and tried different angles and positions and improved a lot, she however, tried it on the top a few times and she was bad at it and doesn't try it on top anymore, even though I thought it was very sexy. When she was not in the mood she would love to give me oral. Now however, I get rejected when I initiate sex, she says 'I'm tired' or 'I have a headache'. She doesn't initiate sex either and we can go a whole week until we do and even then I'm sure she doesn't actually want sex, she's just doing it to make me happy. She no longer pleases me in other ways during that week too and I have to jack myself off in my own room in secret. This really makes me upset. I don't demand sex and I could live with the frequency, I just would like to feel wanted and for HER to want sex too. I have talked to her about it multiple times and she says that she has been very stressed and tired lately. Myself confidence has diminished and I am starting to wonder whether she is attracted to me, I asked her and she says that she is, just I am too 'comfortable'. She moved in with me twice and she's calling me comfortable. I have thought about moving out or asking her to move out and rent somewhere else to solve this. I am really in love with this girl and I know that she loves me too. We often talk about a future together and kids etc, so I know that she is committed and plans on staying with me. I am just unsure if this is the person I could marry in the future, how will she feel a few years from now? I am completely happy, but I get the impression that she has the signs that she is getting bored or losing interest in the relationship. I know this was a very long post, but I thought that I should explain the whole story. I really need someone's advice. Thanks in advance.
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