My daughter is a high achieving freshamn attending privates school in New York. She she has difficulty making decsions an is often paralyized by it. Is there anything that she can do

Do you mean on tests or in real life situations?

In real life situation. Example teacher giving a writing assignment with several choice and asking her to choice which to write on . Or choosing what she wants to eat

Start by limiting her choices. For example- would you like tacos or hamburgs for dinner or would you like to go to the movies or shopping? She could just be getting overwhelmed by the options. The same thing with school work. If it is a large project shorten the choices down to 2 or 3. Soon she will be able to do things like that herself. Also, start giving her MORE choices... ones that do not have dire consequences, but that make her feel like she has "power" in the situation. For example, would you like to start your homework now or in an hour... either way it is getting done, but it gives her the opportunity to make a choice.

How does she do in multiple choice question tests?

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Originally Posted by indecisivelucy

my daughter is a high acheiving freshamn attending privates school in new york. She she has difficulty making decsions an is often paralyized by it. Is there anything that she can do

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The pressure on over achievers to maintain success is sometimes overwhelming. As the work get's harder, fear of failure (or disappointing loved ones/peers) sometimes will cripple decision making. [If I don't choose, I don't choose wrong.] Obviously, I do not know your daughter so this may not be the case. If it is, she may need to learn 'how to overcome failure'. This happens after failing, getting up and trying again, and again, and eventually succeeding. Just don't let her quit mid-stream.