Complications in a relationship.
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My boyfriend and I have a really sweet relationship with each other. It's just that I'm a little too impatient and when he's at work and has no time to call me up or text me. I feel insecure even though I know he's not cheating on me behind my back! Right now the state of our relationship is really complicated. He still loves me and so do I but he doesn't want the tag name "relationship" or "boyfriend/girlfriend" between us because of my impatient nature. He wants us to be friends till I'm done with my A levels and am mature enough to be patient.
We are in the state of friendship right now and he still takes care of me the way he used to. It's just he no more calls me "baby" or "bunny" And I no more call him "sugar".
The idea of him not being my boyfriend really freaks me out!!
WHAT DO I DO?? /
I can't get what I'm supposed to do... please help!
I HAD A VERY BAD EXPERIENCE OF GETTING CHEATED ON IN THE PAST…and this thing made me insecure in nature about relationships…AND MY NATURE OF BEING INSECURE TURNED ME INTO A NAG TOWARDS MY BOYFRIEND! he has a very tight schedule, and is always busy with work(that’s what he tells me) which is why it was hard for him to give me much time.. BUT BECAUSE OF MY NATURE OF BEING INSECURE AND POSSESSIVE MY BRAIN PLAYED GAMES AND I WAS BOUND TO SUSPECT HIM THAT HE WAS EITHER PLAYING ME OR DOUBLING ME... but then again I managed to convince myself that he isn't a person like that
SOME TIMES BACK WHEN WE HAD A FIGHT OVER HIM GIVING ME HIS WRONG PASSWORD OF HIS FACEBOOK ACCOUNT…[though Iater when he gave me his email id and password of his Facebook account again, I found out that I actually typed the E-mail ID wrong (maybe he gave me the wrong email id or apparently my mind was playing games again.. I TRULY DON’T KNOW)]……I opened a fake account to test him.. My fake account flirted with him in full energy! And my boyfriend flirted back.. well, there is a little twist here; him and I, we don’t have a problem flirting with outsiders other than each other.. we allow each other to flirt with others unless it gets serious and way out of the line! but the thing is he told my fake account that he lost his love for me after I started becoming a nag, whereas, when we recently got back I asked him not to force himself to stay with me just out of pity and he told me that he does still feel for me. When I told a friend about it he said that my boyfriend does still feel for me cause otherwise a nerd like him wouldn’t waist so much time after me and that maybe whatever he told my fake account he probably said it just in a fit of rage… I CONTINUED FLIRTING WITH HIM FROM MY FAKE ACCOUNT EVEN AFTER WE GOT BACK CAUSE I DIDN’T WANT HIM TO KNOW THAT IT WAS ACTUALLY ME…THEREFORE,TO PREVENT MYSELF BEING A SUSPECT THE FLIRTING WENT ON.. One day, when I was talking to my boyfriend with the fake account on Facebook a friend came in and took over the chat and asked him to be friends with benefits.. AND TO MY UTTER SHOCK HE AGREED! WHEN I SHARED THIS WITH MY FRIEND AGAIN HE SAID THAT MY BOYFRIEND WASN’T SERIOUS ABOUT BEING FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS HE WAS JUST GOING WITH THE FLOW.. me being aware of him flirting with girls is okay but what hurt me was him agreeing to be friends with benefits with my fake account! I LATER DEACTIVATED MY ACCOUNT AS MY FRIENDS SAID THAT THIS’LL HELP IN PREVENTING MY MIND FROM PLAYING GAMES.
Last night when I was in a romantic mood and he did a thing which made me very happy.. so,I told him, “I love you.” And I suddenly realize that I can’t remember the last time he told me those words since we started going out. I asked him, “when was the last time you told me I love you?” And obviously he avoided it.. I asked him and then he made excuses of the network being out of reach.. and I finally tell him this- “you won’t be able to answer me even if I give you forever because you don’t even have an answer! Listen, please don’t force yourself to be with me if you don’t love me..I remember you telling me a couple of times that you no more have any emotions and all but I always ignored you but today I’m telling you don’t be with me if you don’t feel anything for me.”And that is when he said, “Sorry Mashiat..I can’t be with you…” Later when we talked he told me one thing, “ You know why I behaved the way I did? Cause I was always in stress and I had you in mind, worrying whether you took your meds on time, whether you studied properly, did you sleep well, etc. … but you’ll never understand all this cause you never tried to understand me. All you had in time was whether I gave you enough time and whether I was betraying you but what I always had in mind was whether you did everything properly and on time or not…” Well, I obviously can’t deny that he never stopped taking care of me even when we were in a fight, even after we broke up!
I want him back but I’m in a dilemma of whether I should try to get him back! What am I supposed to do? HELP!