My girl and I haven't been getting along in yhe last 6-8 months
Couple of times it has been physical ilove this girl with all my heart
We have been together for 4 plus years she has moved out of our house
About 1 month now I have taken steps to get counsling for both of us hopefully she will show up. She says I have not been there for her emotionally and she is scared of me.
I love her with all my heart and want to work this out so we can live a happy and productive life together we have talked about so many plans for our future what more can I do? dp03

Tell her how you feel about her, and no matter what if she needs you, you'll be there for her.
Then give ask her if she needs time and space to cope. If she does than give it to her. If she doesn't then continue try not to smother her, but let her know she can come to you any time.

Even if she refuses to go to counceling I recommend that you still go. Reason 1 is it might help you through this time. Reason 2 is she might see that you are serious about making changes by your continued efforts and it might bring her back.

Now that being said, after it's gotten "physical" (big room for inturpretation there) she says she's scarred of you. Maybe she has a right to me and you've broken a line of trust that she can't come back from.

Ultimately that is going to be up to her, I can't say one way or another but if you truly have changed, or can make attempts to change then that might bring her back.