My Girlfriend is stubborn and won't talk to me...
Hi, here goes... hope you're sitting comfortably!
Been going out with my current girlfriend almost 18 months now, things were great, 2 months in, we started renting a house - never been happier, we spent the firs 8-9 months so in love, head over heels, both never been happier ever and we told each other.
In April (9 months in) I took her to Paris and proposed to her, she said yes! Unbelievable, we had the best 4 days and had a great laugh!
Ever since then its been going a little downhill. She has a 21 month old child and I took her and her daughter on from 4 months old. Took a while to adapt, but I got there. Now, her baby's dad was an old acquaintance of mine, I knew him in my circle of friends, I wouldn't say we were bosom buddies, more just someone who was there when we went out.
In June she broke up with me, told me he needed space, and we both very quickly moved back home. 3 weeks went by and I was pining after her, we met up a few times to talk and we had the odd kiss and cuddle and it was very sincere. Only to find she then told me she'd slept with her ex and been out with him a few times.
He's no role model for her daughter at all, he sees her one day a week for 7-8 hours - and had previously dropped from 2 evenings and all weekend, to just Sundays.
I was gutted, didn't know what to do... anyway, we got back together - things were fine but I was so insecure - and probably still am. I found myself asking questions I didn't want to know the answers to and was in a very strange place, one I've never been before - however I still knew I loved this girl and her daughter unconditionally.
After 6-8 weeks together we decided to buy a house, we were both excited and it was a joint decision. We spent time looking for furniture and agreed on things... The deposit for the house was all mine (except for maybe £500) anyway, now its come round to just about moving in she's gone cold feet on me...
Telling me "she needs space", "she feels trapped", "feels like she can't have an opinion if its not the same as mine" Now I know I have to come to terms with the fact I'm not her daughters dad, but she calls me dadda and it warms my heart because we have a really good bond to say she is 21 months.
I have done everything right by her, but I feel she is treating me unfairly given everything I have done/do for her.
It's been really hard not seeing her everyday like we used to, so I've found that frustrating.
When we first laid eyes on each other it was love at first sight, we had known each other before she got pregnant and talked a bit over the Internet, when she became single I jumped at the chance to be with her again (and she did me too to be fair).
We don't always see eye-to-eye but she has the tendency to shy away. For my own security and sanity, I've had to ask questions about the relationship for my own reassurances. She says this is pushing her away, and I've told her I needed to know to be able to "get over it" as such.
Any help/advice welcome!